My Independence has become a Threat !

Today, as we celebrate women during the auspicious festival of Navratri, I want to reflect on Goddess Durga — the embodiment of devotion, discipline, perseverance, and inner strength.

Having travelled across Singapore, Indonesia, Hong Kong, China, the UAE, Japan, the UK, and Thailand, I have experienced different cultures and professional environments. After returning to India, I began reflecting more deeply on the expectations placed on women, particularly those who choose independence and professional ambition.

Despite celebrating the nine forms of the Goddess during Navratri, being a single woman in India can be very different from being single in other parts of the world.

A woman can be ambitious and sexually aware. She can be professionally driven and still desire love, intimacy, affection, and companionship. These parts of her identity do not cancel each other out.

In India - Some women are taught to suppress their biological and emotional needs to preserve a relationship, protect their reputation, or safeguard their careers. 

Others are expected to sacrifice their biological sexual needs to prove that they are serious about their career.

Why must a woman demonstrate her ambition by denying her humanity?

I suppose a mother of a 20-year-old who quit marriage after 18 years may have had to put her lust on hold while focusing on her career.
I repeat,  it is Lust and not biological need or love which was put aside.

However, people often fail to understand that my feelings are biological and human; they are not simply lust to be put aside. 

My expressions are authentic and not lust.

“Lust seek gratification, but intimacy seek connection. Do not mistake one for the other.”

Two months ago, I made a well-considered decision to distance myself from a man i was attracted to in 2022, recognizing that I could no longer tolerate the bullying, mockery, and emotional distress surrounding the situation involving the lust of a mother of a 20-year-old. 

Lust can make a human being very dangerous. I could sense the danger.

It was not an impulsive decision. It was a conscious choice to protect my dignity and peace of mind.

I had hoped that making this decision would also allow me to be accepted by the professional system i was a part of between 2015 - 2019.

The system has not changed even by 1%. 

The experience left me confronting a difficult question: What happens when a woman’s independence becomes a threat ?

I began to wonder whether my independence itself had become a threat......threat to the lust of the mother of 20 year....old........

Iam Excluded...once again.

Perhaps the world finds it easier to accept a woman who sacrifices everything, stays silent, and conforms to expectations than one who makes her own decisions, acknowledges her desires, protects her dignity, and refuses to compromise her financial worth.

Dear Men -

I am not here to play games of lust. I am here to live authentically.

My feelings are genuine. My body's responses are real. My desire for affection, intimacy, love, and companionship is not something I need to justify to anyone, nor is it a weakness that diminishes my professional ambition.

My needs are as authentic as my body, mind, and soul. 

I refuse to let anyone force me to play the game of lust.

My expressions are authentic and human and its not lust to be put aside.

I can pursue ambition without denying my emotions. I can value my independence without pretending I have no personal needs. And I can honour my body without allowing anyone to use my feelings as a means of control.

I know the difference between what I feel and what others choose to project onto me, and I will stand by my authenticity. My emotions are not lust.

My feelings are not a game to be won, a weakness to be exploited, or a need to be ridiculed.

Senior leadership hiring in large organizations can take up to 3-4 months without strong connections. While I continue pursuing these opportunities, I’ll continue to explore startups.

What excites me is that Bengaluru startups are now offering competitive compensation. It’s encouraging to see the ecosystem evolving.

And if startups offer me better pay, even better! 

Imagine starting your day at 6 AM, swimming for an hour, getting ready for work, and still having time for yourself. For me, the ideal opportunity is not just about earning more; it’s about building financial stability while making room for life beyond work.

This time my focus in on - Make More Money ! 

On this auspicious occasion of Navratri, a festival that celebrates the strength, courage, and power of women, I am delighted to share a special moment.

I received an invitation to join as a Distinguished Speaker at the NextGen Women Global Summit 2027, scheduled to take place from March 8–11, 2027, in Paris, France.

I have accepted the invitation. On March 08 2027 i will be sharing some of the experiences i encountered as a single woman in my career.

In the last two months, I have learned some hard lessons about the gaps in my career. Had I received this right mentorship ten years ago, my salary today might have been more than double what it is now.

I have gained something invaluable: the knowledge to generate Goddess Rani Lakshmi — create business value and build financial independence.

Knowledge has given me the courage to lead, and move forward on my own terms.

I discovered myself.

Iam awakened !

Iam now 100% ready for senior leadership positions.

But you will become 100% efficient only when you experience your power in my throat - after you release your stress in my throat - Divine - Oreo....its an authentic genuine feeling and  not lust....

Wishing you all a very Happy Navratri !