The opposite of Belonging is Fitting In !

The opposite of Belonging is Fitting In.

I believe in non-conformity.

Conformity is Fixed and is created by Man and not God =  Conformity is Rigidity !
If everything were fixed, there would be no need for courage faith and choice.

If everything were fixed, there would be no need of  God.

I chose courage - I chose Non-Conformity.

I am a single, unmarried woman, and I have consciously chosen to live my life according to my own values rather than society's expectations. 

In 2009, I was encouraged to marry a man primarily because of his property, as I had not inherited property from my father. I chose a different path. I declined the proposal, moved to Singapore with nothing more than a dream and a suitcase, and within two years I was able to buy my own home through my hard work and determination.

Between 2017 and 2022, I often dreamed of becoming a mother, even without marriage. Over time, however, I realized that neither marriage nor motherhood should be pursued because society expects them. They should be based on love, choice, and personal conviction. That belief led me to focus my love and care toward orphaned children and causes that support them.

For me, marriage and motherhood are meaningful only when they arise from love, not from conformity.
Conformity is a man made rigid artificial structure for his own survival and it was not created by God.

I am willing to give 500% of my effort, commitment, and dedication, provided I am able to work in a safe and respectful environment.

May be you have never ever encountered with any Diversity before and therefore you have no idea what a safe environment looks like.

To me, a safe environment is one where no one makes assumptions about my  identity. It is an environment where no married colleague says that my manager or skip-level manager is my husband, or attempts to define me through stereotypes rather than my work. Thats Bullying.

Can you give me a safe environment and i would give my 500% effort.

I do not want to be compared with married women, nor do I wish to be expected to follow the same life path or experiences that they may have chosen or gone through.

Every individual has different aspirations, circumstances, and definitions of fulfillment. I have consciously chosen a different path, and I ask that this choice be respected.

My value as a professional should be assessed based on my skills, performance, integrity, and contributions—not on my marital status or on comparisons with people whose personal lives and choices are different from mine.

I respectfully request that assumptions, expectations, or comparisons based on marriage be avoided. Acceptance and inclusion begin with recognizing that people can lead different lives and still be equally successful, capable, and fulfilled.