As women, we are often rewarded for conforming—to expectations, traditions, stereotypes, and roles that others have written for us. But true empowerment begins when we give ourselves permission to write our own story.
Back in 2017, I liked someone.
Almost immediately, another man, seemed convinced that my dreams, choices, and future could be rewritten for me. He treated my independence as something temporary and my convictions as something that would eventually bend under pressure. The expectation was clear: sooner or later, I would abandon my own path, conform to someone else's expectations, and follow a script that was never mine.
He understood that the moment I would start making decisions purely to survive—the battle would already be won. Do what is required and that is success. In that version of the story, conformity would call itself success, and surrender would be mistaken for happiness.
There is nothing more ruthless than Conformity.
Survival is what people do when systems fail them. It is what happens when certainty, safety, and opportunity are replaced by risk and instability. Yet we celebrate survival as though it is the highest form of achievement.
Maybe the real measure of progress is not how many people manage to survive despite the odds, but how few like me are forced into survival mode in the first place. Thats exactly what happened in 2018.
Years later, I find myself attracted to someone else again.
Whether that story becomes anything is uncertain, and honestly, I am at peace with that. I have learned how to live alone, grow alone, heal alone, and build a life that feels complete on its own.
Today, in 2026, I have decided to give myself another chance.
I am open to new opportunities and bigger possibilities.
But unlike 2018 If conformity becomes the fee, Then i will not repeat the mistake i did in 2018 - I will show where the exit is to the person asking me to conform rather than me moving to the exit door.
The shadi shuda ghagra chowli wali auratein are the ones campaigning for conformity and collecting signatures from the society for conformity.
Have you heard of these songs sung by these women who believe in conformity.
"Shaadi tere naa karawangi,
Jhaadu pochha tussi la leyo,
Chaa aape main banawangi"
I will be your wife and he will be her husband Lol.......Marriage failed. Still they want to follow the same conformity pattern? Like a very traditional matchmaking (shaadi) committee that nobody invited but everyone assumes has authority.
Thats Conformity. Its Funny !
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