The assumption seems to be that because I did not follow the same relationship path of another woman, I lack faith.
Society teaches us certain timelines: marry by a certain age, have children by a certain age. Along with these expectations comes the fear of being left behind, growing old alone, not having children or missing out on love, companionship, and family.
As a result, people feel pressured to chose conformity or chose the partner who is currently available simply because they are afraid of ending up being alone. The fear of loneliness. At the same time they prey God that they find a partner they wish.
Faith it until you make it. They have deep faith in the process.
These fears are deeply human, and I do not judge them. Loneliness can be ruthless. The desire for connection is natural.
However - My life is not built on the fear of being alone.
Faith, for me, is not faith that someone will arrive and complete my life. Faith to me is knowing that I am already complete.
Many woman assume that I chose not to conform because I am seeking certainty, guarantees, or evidence that this particular someone will be my partner. This is abusive.
The irony is exactly the opposite.
My life is built on the faith that I can stand on my own even without a Man.
I have faith that i can build a meaningful life by myself without children.
I have faith that i can navigate life challenges by myself.
I have faith that i can take care of myself in my old age.
I have faith in my own ability to live a meaningful life, whether or not I find the partner I envision for myself. Because of that, I do not feel compelled to have a partner while iam waiting for the right partner i wish. I do not make decisions based on the anxiety that time is running out or that I need someone in my life at any cost.
I dont fear loneliness.
And my confidence comes from living alone for 18 years after my father passed away. Faith in myself. Iam a single unmarried virgin.
Different people have different levels of fear, different levels of sexual desires. Some may be compelled to choose partners because of the fear of living alone or to fulfill their sexual desires while they continue to have faith that some day the process will give them a partner who they envisioned. Faith it until you make it.
I do not have to follow their path simply because it works for them.
We are different individuals with different priorities, different levels of fear, different levels of sexual desires, different levels of independence, and different identities.
What is right for one person is not necessarily right for another, because we are different.
I do not wish to be compared with married or separated woman because we are different identities.
I am not interested in marriage, and therefore I have no desire to model my life on the challenges, compromises, or struggles that others may have experienced within it.
I respect their choices, but I have chosen a different path for myself.
I have my own identity.
Iam a Non-Conformist.
Assuming this is not the case - If they say they lost personal autonomy in exchange of career success, then I do not consider that as faith.
I consider it a compromise that no woman should be forced to make.
Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion means recognizing that different people can make different life choices and still be equally worthy of respect, opportunity, and success.
Right now, I am looking for an Equal Opportunity Employer who will evaluate me based on my skills, experience, potential, and contributions—not on my marital status or personal life choices.
I value independence deeply. Whether I choose to marry someday or remain single for the rest of my life is a personal decision, not a measure of my professional capability or worth.
I have already taken the next step in my professional journey, I am not sure why someone else's marriage storms—is being brought into the discussion.
Iam a single unmarried virgin and do not wish to go through the experiences of a married woman or a separated woman. Its not belonging its fitting in.
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