Why Must a Woman Be Broken Before Society Thinks She Deserves Love?

I am not an animal that needs to be wounded to deserve empathy or love.
Iam an unmarried woman and North India question my biological desires?

I have travelled around the world - swam across rivers....but hey.......North India does not want to respect my independence and freedom, because like an animal i must be wounded to express my biological desires.

They call me names - laugh at me and then say : You need someone to help you win.

And then - Suddenly, men look at a separated woman like she’s both sacred and available at the same time — a goddess wrapped inside a fantasy they think they’ve been granted access to.

A woman survives heartbreak, abandonment, or separation — and instead of seeing her humanity, people project opportunity onto her. 

And when these woman support men who see her biology as a lottery ticket and opportunity......That’s when I pause and think:

What exactly is happening to us socially?

Women are taught to view each other as competitors for male approval. — Naomi Wolf

Sometimes women themselves begin accepting this attention because society has convinced them survival is the same thing as validation.

Women start believing that attention is empowerment.
Hypersexuality is freedom.
Being desired is the same thing as being loved.

But many times, it is not confidence speaking.
It is unmet emotional hunger trying to survive in a culture that only notices women when they become consumable.

Real women empowerment is not about teaching women to market their wounds better. 

Dear woman....

You do not have to beg for love, perform pain, or trade self-respect for acceptance.
Some women like you rise faster in male-dominated spaces because you learn to emotionally accommodate those male dominated systems.
Others like me often lose years of their career simply because we refuse to surrender our dignity to survive them.
I know what it feels like to watch my career slow down while refusing to bend, flatter, or emotionally negotiate my selfworth.
And maybe that is the deeper problem we refuse to discuss.

A North Indian society cannot call itself progressive if women are rewarded more for pleasing male power than for protecting their self-respect.

A healthy society teaches women that they are worthy before sacrifice — not because of sacrifice.
Have you seen this - Male dominated society marketing a woman's pain....

Let me tell you the real feminine thingy......

Most woman who are truly wounded will never market their pain — And what we often see online is not the full truth of real suffering, but the version that has been shaped for sex, and wealth.

Worth is not a performance.
And dignity does not need an audience.

I don't have any wound to market - I have not done any sacrifice for anyone.

I just want to - swim; dance; and have some Beer!
I just want to have a holiday in my native place.
Iam from Nangyarkulangara - Karthikapally Alappuzha......
Nangyar is the name of the river....
Kulam means river.....
Kara means Shore......

Are you Param. Param Mehra?

Yes, at a fundamental level its all about beach, beer, swim and dance. 
And that's called LIFE.