You know, I lived outside India for almost six years, and I saw women becoming single mothers without marriage — confidently, independently, and without shame.
Somewhere along the way, I too wanted to become a mother without marriage. Not to rebel against society, but because motherhood was a dream my heart genuinely carried.
The biggest mistake I made was returning to India hoping to fulfill a dream that never came true.
In 2017, I dreamt of becoming a mother — not because society approved it, not because marriage validated it, but because my heart wanted it. I was deeply drawn to someone, but instead of understanding, the society judged.
In many parts of North India, a woman is often respected more when she conforms to society’s expectations of marriage and motherhood. Even if she is separated or divorced, society still validates her because she went through the “accepted” path.
A woman wanting motherhood outside society’s accepted boundaries was seen as immoral, while silence protected the men involved. Conversations turned into negotiations.
“Sree, I’ll donate my sperm if you do this… achieve that…”
Today, I want to say this clearly:
I do not need anyone’s “precious sperm” or validation to celebrate my existence.
I am still a single, unmarried woman today. Yet even dreaming about love, companionship, or motherhood outside society’s approved structure becomes enough for people to judge, shame, and suppress a woman’s natural emotional and biological desires.
Some are even quick to use words like “prostitute” against a woman who chooses differently.
This is the harsh contradiction many women continue to face in parts of North India — where a woman’s worth is still too often measured by conformity.
Yes, it does not really have any relationship with my bank balance and Job Title ;
This birthday, I donated a small amount to an orphanage where four little children celebrated their birthdays with me on May 6th. I could not spend much time with them, but they reminded me of something deeply powerful — love, purpose, and womanhood are far bigger than society’s narrow definitions.
And today, I know this for sure:
I do not need a man to complete me.
It’s heartbreaking that while women in India are evolving, leading, creating, and dreaming, many are still denied the freedom to express their most natural emotional and biological desires because of society’s mindset.
I can spend my entire life loving orphaned children, and there is peace in knowing that my dignity was never traded for someone’s conditions or approval.
My womb is not a negotiation table.
I am just a wandering skylark that lost its path somewhere along the journey, only to arrive unknowingly at a place I now call destiny.
At least today, I am proud that I never agreed with a man who said,
“I will donate my precious sperm if you do this and achieve this for me.”
Motherhood, love, and womanhood should never come at the cost of a woman’s self-respect.
The same society often grants acceptance and freedom to a separated woman because she has already fulfilled its expectations of marriage and motherhood.
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