Manipulation is nothing but self-deception.

Desire leads to attachment, attachment leads to craving, and craving leads to manipulation.

The Theory of the Leisure Class connects closely with The Art of Loving.

The Theory of the Leisure Class explains how consumption is often about signaling status rather than fulfilling real needs.

Veblen explains consumption as driven by illusion and status.

Shopping is often equated with status, creating the illusion that there is always a need for more.

Since 2022, I have been working from home—what emerged since then was a habit of conscious shopping.

I began focusing on wardrobe essentials—timeless pieces that could be mixed and matched in versatile ways. This, to me, is the foundation of sartorial integrity—buying with intention, not impulse.

Recently this week, I made a purchase at Van Heusen, transitioning back to a work-from-office role after nearly five years.

During this shopping, I received a small gift worth ₹4299 from Van Heusen. 
Interestingly, it wasn’t for this year's purchase, but a reward linked to my shopping in 2025 just before my trips to Thailand.

The Theory of the Leisure Class is closely related to the Theory of Art of Loving.
What you called manipulation is, a failure to love authentically—replacing reality with projection according to Art of Loving.
Fromm argues that many people ;
-Don’t actually seek love
-They seek fulfillment of desires
-And then construct illusions about the other person to justify it

The real question is not whether I was strong enough to handle it.
The real question is: Why should any woman have to handle it?

The Question is why should I handle it ?

If someone can undermine a woman’s credibility so easily, then intelligence, talent, and hard work are never the issue — power is.

And what about women who don’t have the resources, voice, or support to fight back? Do we just label them and let them fall?

Empowerment is not about saying, “I can handle it.”
Empowerment is about ensuring no women is put in that position to begin with.

Any act that uplifts a woman by putting another woman down is not women empowerment.

Self-centeredness cannot empower women.
When personal desire comes at the cost of another woman’s dignity, it stops being women empowerment.

True love begins with loving yourself !

Tell me why should i handle it ?

Iam sorry, but I love myself !

The Question is are you willing to accept my real authentic self ?

The society rather prefers a woman who comes polished with alimony and enough property from parents.

And iam a single unmarried with no inherited property.

I’ve come to realize that fighting endlessly for inclusion isn’t always the answer. People act from their own concerns, fears about their safety and their own boundaries.

And maybe acceptance isn’t something to chase—it’s something that finds you when you stop trying to fit where you were never meant to.

I’ve learned to respect other people’s fears—but I won’t reshape myself just to belong. 
No matter what.

It’s not me who fears failure or defeat in any circumstance—maybe it’s society that fears me.
It’s simply the opposite.