Fear ≠ Weakness
Compliance ≠ Empowerment
Have you seen the Bollywood movie Pink ?
In the Movie - There is a powerful statement - No is a complete sentence !
Let me introduce you the man who introduced that statement !
Its Gavin de Becker - In his book - The Gift of Fear !
You have a brilliant internal guardian that stands ready to warn you of hazards ?
Do you know what it is - It is called as Fear !
How may of you have used this instinct called Fear ?
Growth that demands you to ignore fear is survival under coercion.
It is Survival Mindset and is not Growth Mindset !
Fear is a natural instinct ! It is biological by nature.
Society teaches women to ignore their fear only for survival — the illusion of growth is almost a distilled thesis of the book.
Hypocrisy of consent - “No” is only respected when it doesn’t interfere with profit — or when a woman has the financial power to say it.
For me, fear has always been a boundary-keeper, not something shameful or regressive.
I understood fear as a wise internal compass — not a weakness.
I saw fear as a tool that can empower woman !
Today in the name of DEI policies - Corporates hands a divorced woman a label of empowerment like a trophy. Does this so-called “empowered woman” status truly heal you?
What was your cost of ignoring fear - Body ? Womb ? Rape ? Do you call this a Growth Mindset ?
De Becker essentially says: Growth or peace that demands self-abandonment is not growth — it's survival under duress.
Let’s be honest — Survival is not Growth !
And to those divorced women who are encouraging others to make the same choices and mistakes they did 15 years ago — That’s not empowerment. That’s confirmatory bias — a need to validate your past by seeing others follow it.
If you still feel your past is right - Then why dont you live with the past legal partners ; why are you even chasing other men around you ?
I say this with full empathy and compassion —
I understand that you did what you had to, in the circumstances you faced.
But I am not here to repeat those choices just to make your past feel right.
The day you realise that every decision you made in the past came from a survival mindset,
is the day you’ll finally begin to evolve, grow, and heal.
Lets help all our divorced woman heal !
Passing on unhealed choices is not empowerment — it’s harm.
And most important is that men are leveraging these woman to harass other woman !
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