There is often a great deal of confusion around what inclusion truly means in many organizations.
Inclusion is not about being kind — it’s about being fair.
A female unmarried or separated or divorced woman chooses to wear revealing clothing — not for comfort or by coincidence, but deliberately to attract attention. Then she declares, “Respect me. This is inclusion.”
Expecting to be treated like a goddess while dressing for the male gaze? Is this Inclusion ?
When did appealing to objectification become a benchmark for equality and inclusion ? That’s not inclusion.
Some men who are encouraging male domination are agreeing with this !
Inclusion is about equal rights. It simply means: 'Treat me the same way you treat others.'
I observe that married women often have access to job mobility — they can request job rotations or explore different functions with relative ease. But someone like me, an outlier, is often denied that same access. My experience from 2018.
I see people in system confidently asking for role changes, manager changes, or flexible hours — working 8 hours a day and leaving before the 9th hour. But an outlier like me is expected to be available 24/7. They say Hard Work......Hard Work......
I’ve never seen a married woman being told, ‘Congrats on your new role! Also, surprise — your manager is now your husband!’ 🤯 Nope. That memo never goes out for married woman.
But me? As the glorious outlier?
I apparently got the ‘special edition onboarding package’.
In many societal contexts, women are subjected to a form of "kindness" that is, in reality, a tool for control. Using kindness to ensure compliance. Understanding that not all acts of kindness are rooted in goodwill. By prioritizing fairness over kindness, we pave the way for genuine inclusion where every individual is valued and respected.
When kindness is used to control, It’s no longer kindness. It’s a tool of silence.
Real leadership isn’t about silencing people with kindness.
It’s about creating space where voices — even the uncomfortable ones — are heard.
This post reminds me of the movie KGF.
In the world of KGF, kindness wasn’t compassion — it was a weapon. A tool the powerful used to silence the powerless, to keep them in their place.
But Rocky wasn’t looking for anyone’s approval.
He didn’t beg for a seat at the table —
He believed it was his right to be there.
It’s time to stop asking—
and start fighting for your place at the table.
Stop disguising fairness as kindness.
Don’t fool anyone into believing they been “given” something they didn’t deserve —
only to make them feel indebted, obligated to please.
Dear Society,
We often find it easier to respect a woman who stayed in a relationship for 15 years, sacrificing her self-respect, to raise her child and that she cant face poverty and give up luxury ? Yet, we struggle to respect a woman who is single-handedly working hard, raising her child with dignity, simply because she isn’t financially rich.
Worse, we blame her poverty on her competence — as if wealth alone defines worth.
Do we truly respect women, or do we respect wealth more than women?
Perhaps that's why so many women feel pressured to surrender to men — even when they have the strength, skills, and potential to live on their own terms and fulfill more than just a man's wishes.
We’ve long been taught to respect women who sacrificed their self-respect in the name of survival — and yes, their strength is real.
But too often, we overlook the silent warriors — the women who choose dignity over dependence, who face the storm of poverty with their heads held high.
Can we pause… and truly see them?
Because real empowerment lies in the hands of women who refuse to surrender their worth —
not in the hands of those who have or are trading their bodies to escape hardship and poverty.
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