Single Unmarried Virgin - Yes thats Me !
Let me take you back to 2008-2009, a year that could be called “Plot Twist Central.” After my father’s untimely passing, my family and I were asked to vacate the company quarters we had called home provided to my father. Suddenly, we were homeless, vulnerable, and left staring at an uncertain future. Enter the suitors.
Music : The Entry of a Hero ! Men with flashy smiles and even flashier promises paraded in, flaunting their riches, sprawling properties across southern India, and sweet-talking moving me into the idea of a “secure life and marriage.”
I still remember one of those suitors mocking my father, ridiculing his decision to walk away from the property he had every legal right to.
Rather than becoming a victim of circumstances and expressing gratitude for the suitor, I chose to make my own CHOICE !
So, what did I do? I politely declined, sold all my jewelry, and bid adieu to my homeland. I moved abroad armed with nothing but 3 things ;
2.A Bag and
3.A Suitcase
For six years, I worked tirelessly in Singapore and Japan, building my life from the ground up. By 2012, I achieved what some of those male suitors probably thought was impossible: I bought my own home in Namma Bengaluru!
Back to India in 2015 - Things never changed !
In 2018, I encountered another vile attempt at male domination. Certain individuals expected me to "marry" a man by name testing not in a legal or respectful sense, but in a way that reduced me to a mere "keep"—a role designed to serve his sexual desires.
The question running through my mind was: Did I walk away from the role of a legal wife offered to me in 2009, only to become a bastard’s “keeper” in 2018?
Their sense of entitlement was overwhelming, as if my independence was something to be threatened. It’s a reflection of how Men sees the autonomy of a single unmarried woman as something they can control.
They even had the audacity to present it as a "benefit," offering compensation for this degrading arrangement. This reflects how deeply sexual harassment has been normalized within societal structures. What’s even more alarming is that this behavior often comes from well-educated men, highlighting a form of unconscious sexual harassment—where entitlement and objectification are so ingrained that they don’t even recognize their actions as wrong.
Worse still, some women unknowingly become enablers, serving as tokens in a system that perpetuates sexual harassment and reinforces male domination.
I’m left wondering how they could live with a man they don’t even like for 15 years. Is it love? Or just a love for property? There really can’t be any other reason!
I call such women who support Male Domination as Masochist.
I was outraged—not just for myself, but for what this represented. My worth is not determined by a man’s desires, nor am I an object to be bartered or used. I’ve worked hard for everything I’ve achieved, putting in countless hours of effort and passion to build a life I’m proud of. My value is not tied to fulfilling anyone else’s expectations, and I refuse to let anyone dictate my autonomy.
This isn’t just my story; it’s a reflection of how deeply ingrained male domination can be in society.
This reflects a broader issue of how single women, can be disrespected and treated as if their choices are open to manipulation.
But I’m here to say that no woman should ever accept such oppression. We are not defined by circumstances or societal judgments—we are defined by our choices !
I was born in Alappuzha at an elevation below sea level, into a lineage marked by resilience. My father, a man of quiet strength, lost his mother the day he was born and his father to the merciless floods that swept through his childhood. Abandoned by his stepmother at the age of 10 ; he could have fought for the property he had every legal right to, but he chose not to.
He chose dignity over disputes, integrity over inheritance. That is the kind of man I want in my life—someone who embodies selflessness, strength, and unwavering principles.
I am defined by the choices I make, by the values I hold, and by the path I carve for myself.
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