Ladies, you know the drill—first, they try to sell you safety and protection like it's a limited edition handbag. "Hey, I can keep you safe from the big bad world!" they say. And suddenly, your self-worth is tied to how well they can shield you from society, as if your entire existence revolves around their one-man security system. And there are women who agree with these men. (Sorry, ladies, no collecting points for ‘safety’ or ‘romance’ here.) True safety is earned—by your own self-respect, trust, and knowing that no one can ever take it from you.
True safety isn’t about a man protecting me from the world; it's about how safe I feel in his presence—how secure I feel from him as a person - and that is mine to own.
Exactly! At its core, safety means respect—he won't touch me, emotionally or physically, without my clear and enthusiastic permission.
It's about knowing you're valued, that your boundaries are honoured, and that you're safe to be yourself without fear of violation or pressure.
If you want to steal safety and protection, you’ll have to steal it from me—not from the man. It’s mine to own, and no one can touch it.
And that, my friend, is the real romance. Through it all, I’ve come to embrace a deeper truth: we are, indeed, what we seek.
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